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"Identity Crisis In BPD"

By Michael Weisz


Welcome to this Weekly Q&A session.

Today I want to talk with you about the identity crisis most of the BPD are dealing with.

First, what is identity crisis?

Although identity crisis seems to bear specificity in borderline personality whether BPDs suffered abuses or not, it received little attention in scientific studies. One of the few studies to study identity crisis is titled "Identity Disturbance In Borderline Personality Disorder: An Empirical Investigation" by Wilkinson-Ryan & Western (http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/157/4/528).

In previous literature, identity crisis is addressed through terms as fragmentation, boundary confusion, and lack of cohesion and continuity of the self across situations and life history.

As the above article mentions, these dimensions of identity crisis seem difficult to measure or to define clearly.

In simpler words, a person who has identity crisis thinks or tells about oneself something similar to "I don't know who I am".

This self-statement can be found in a vast number of life domains, like profession, home, family, relationships, friends, life-principles etc.

For instance a BPD with identity crisis might have problems finding a suitable job or profession, to come forward with a coherent and cohesive identity in a relationship. They can find it hard to express their needs ("I don't know what I want"), or their principles when relating with others ("I don't know how should I handle this situation").

Also identity crisis might predispose one to manifest radical personality shifts, for instance from victim to victimizer, from lover to abuser, or from a reliable to an unreliable individual, just to mention a few.

Next, let's see what might be the causes of these identity crises.

One set of causes are to be found in the invalidating home environment. As we know BPDs suffered intense invalidations of their unconscious needs during their first years of life. A BPD learns that his/her natural needs aren't normal and welcomed, and that he/she must suppress them in order to gain approval and acceptance from significant adults. In other words, the BPD learns that he/she is not good as he/she is. Such situations create the first major identity crisis.

The second set of causes is comprised of other related attitudes and behaviors BPDs deal with during their childhood. For instance many had an enmeshed relationship with one or both of their parents. Later in life these aspects have created great difficulties in the normal functioning when the BPD person didn't had a significant adult around to get help from. Also, many have been prevented from engaging in certain activities that would have sustained the development of their positive self-perceptions and abilities (e.g. taking dance classes, going out, meeting new people, engaging in new leisure or professional activities).

All these shortcomings exert a significant toll on a BPD's identity AND self-confidence.

Building up a congruent self-identity might look overwhelming at the beginning especially because the current issues have developed over many years or even decades.

Although usually it would be unrealistic to expect significant improvements on the short -run, identity issues can be fixed successfully. It requires time and dedication but the results are usually deep and long lasting.

The BPD person discovers his/her traits and personality attributes, realizes that having certain needs is perfectly normal, which leads to the building of a healthy connection with oneself. This redescovery quenches the deep need for a honest and realistic connection with one's needs and emotions.

Also usually the BPD sufferers discover that they represent so much more than just a set of negative attributes. The BPD finds out that he/she has also positive sides. In fact many positive sides..

So the message I want to leave you with is to reconnect with yourself, with your needs, desires, emotions, and inner states and fill up the gaps of your idenity. This is one of the key steps in the journey to become BPD-free. 

A complete BPD eliminating program also teaches emotional reprogramming, dealing strategies with addictions and impulsivity, it teaches the exact steps to reprogram the self-defeating attitudes, perceptions, beliefs, and thoughts, deal with all the other associated disorders, and addresses other important life areas that are usually affected by BPD like, relationships, dating, sexuality, professional life, job performance.

You'll find all these problems and many more addressed in my new "Borderline Personality Begone!" Program. It is the exact step-by-step system that I used to treat my BPD myself. I get emails from my customers regularly telling me how fast their healing has happened.

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This is it for this week. I hope you found a lot of value in this Q&A session!

Talk to you soon,

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