Crisis In BPD"
By Michael Weisz
this Weekly Q&A session.
Today I want to talk
with you about the identity crisis most of
the BPD are dealing with.
First, what is
crisis seems to bear specificity in
borderline personality whether BPDs suffered
abuses or not, it received little attention
in scientific studies. One of the few
studies to study identity crisis is titled
"Identity Disturbance In Borderline
Personality Disorder: An Empirical
Investigation" by Wilkinson-Ryan & Western (http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/157/4/528).
literature, identity crisis is
addressed through terms as fragmentation,
boundary confusion, and lack of cohesion and
continuity of the self across situations and
As the above article
mentions, these dimensions of identity
crisis seem difficult to measure or to
In simpler words, a
person who has identity crisis thinks or
tells about oneself something similar to "I
don't know who I am".
can be found in a vast number of life
domains, like profession, home, family,
relationships, friends, life-principles etc.
For instance a BPD
with identity crisis might have
problems finding a suitable job or
profession, to come forward with a coherent
and cohesive identity in a relationship.
They can find it hard to express their needs
("I don't know what I want"), or their
principles when relating with others ("I
don't know how should I handle this
Also identity crisis
might predispose one to manifest radical
personality shifts, for instance from victim
to victimizer, from lover to abuser, or from
a reliable to an unreliable individual, just
to mention a few.
Next, let's see what
might be the causes of these identity
One set of causes
are to be found in the invalidating home
environment. As we know BPDs suffered
intense invalidations of their unconscious
needs during their first years of life. A
BPD learns that his/her natural needs aren't
normal and welcomed, and that he/she must
suppress them in order to gain approval and
acceptance from significant adults. In other
words, the BPD learns that he/she is not
good as he/she is. Such situations create
the first major identity crisis.
The second set of
causes is comprised of other related
attitudes and behaviors BPDs deal with
during their childhood. For instance many
had an enmeshed relationship with one or
both of their parents. Later in life these
aspects have created great difficulties in
the normal functioning when the BPD person
didn't had a significant adult around to get
help from. Also, many have been prevented
from engaging in certain activities that
would have sustained the development of
their positive self-perceptions and
abilities (e.g. taking dance classes, going
out, meeting new people, engaging in new
leisure or professional activities).
shortcomings exert a significant toll on a
BPD's identity AND self-confidence.
Building up a
congruent self-identity might look
overwhelming at the beginning especially
because the current issues have
developed over many years or even decades.
Although usually it
would be unrealistic to expect significant
improvements on the short -run, identity
issues can be fixed successfully. It
requires time and dedication but the results
are usually deep and long lasting.
The BPD person
discovers his/her traits and personality
attributes, realizes that having certain
needs is perfectly normal, which leads to
the building of a healthy connection with
oneself. This redescovery quenches the deep
need for a honest and realistic connection
with one's needs and emotions.
Also usually the
BPD sufferers discover that they represent
so much more than just a set of negative
attributes. The BPD finds out that he/she
has also positive sides. In fact many
So the message
I want to leave you with is to reconnect
with yourself, with your needs, desires,
emotions, and inner states and fill up
the gaps of your idenity. This is one of the
key steps in the journey to become
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This is it for this
week. I hope you found a lot of value in
this Q&A session!
Talk to you soon,